In a world full of competition, it is hard to find someone and get into some sort of relationship with them. We’re always trying to find ways to be the best that we can be. But the problem with this is that we have to be so confident, smart, physical, funny, etc. that we either get full of ourselves or come off that way. When you’re pulling out your best assets you can actually end up intimidating the woman you’re trying to get with without even realizing it. If you notice that you’ve got some of these qualities you might want to fine tune them to be less terrifying to women.
It’s not uncommon for a guy to be really smart. College is completely necessary to get a decent job these days so you’ve got to be educated. Whether you’re naturally gifted or have studied your ass off in school you might be well-versed in a wide range of subjects and speak well on them. When you go out on your date it’s tempting to pull out a conversation on classic Walden poetry or the most controversial graffiti in the city. As you cover all of your vast amount of points you notice that she’s getting a look in her eyes. That look is fear. You’re talking about such different things, but both equally well, that she might feel like she can’t keep up.
How to Pull It Back
Instead of throwing all of this information at her you might want to pick one stream of conversation. It’s going to flow on it’s own but at least it’s all in the same family. Maybe you want to keep the conversation current and talk about music. You don’t have to go into all of the covers, producers, back-up singers, etc. on the band you’re talking about. Only scratch the surface so she can keep everything up. Letting her in on your smarts little by little will keep her more interested.
Being really attractive isn’t something you can really help. Your parents hit it out of the park and made a good-looking baby. You find that women just don’t seem to trust you because you’re so handsome they think that you’re a player. It’s not your fault, but they don’t know that. It’s assumed that a guy like you would just bang every woman in the vicinity.
How to Pull It Back
You can’t really help how you look. If you purposely uglied yourself up it’s only going to defeat the purpose. Women do end up dating you because of your looks, but are afraid to commit to you for the same reason. So when you do get to know them you’ve really got to let them get to know your personality. When they see that you’re not some asshole who only wants to put it in her she’s going to be more likely to start trusting you. Then she’ll be stoked that you’re a good guy and arm candy to show off.