It’s a fine line to walk between intensity and persistence and coming on too strong. When you’re excited about hooking up with a gorgeous woman it’s easy to be too pushy and end up pushing her away. That’s a little counterproductive to your efforts, so don’t catch yourself doing that. The last thing you want to do is get a reputation around the town you’re looking for hookups in as a creepy guy who doesn’t know how to take no for an answer. There’s no coming back from a reputation like that and we’ve seen too many guys ruined and ostracized for it, so trust us when we say that you don’t want to let it happen to you. Intensity is a good thing to have when you’re trying to hook up because it shows that you have some real passion, but how do you know when you’re being too intense?
Watch Her Clues
Body language is everything with women. You know how they can be, right? Half the time she’d sooner keep talking to a guy she isn’t interested in than say anything to him. If she’s sending off clues like crossing her arms in front of her chest or turning the center of her body away from you, you’re coming on as too strong. Those are defensive postures and if a woman assumes them while she’s talking to you, she’s a little put off by your conversation and attempts at hooking up with her. If she seems more interested in looking around the bar than looking at you, you’re coming on too strong and making her uncomfortable. Things like that mean she’s looking for a way to get away from you. It doesn’t mean your chances are gone, though. Maybe you said something that rubbed her the wrong way, so take a mental tally of the things you just said and adjust accordingly and you could still have a chance with her.
Put It in Perspective
Ever been hit on by a woman who just wouldn’t quit? It’s creepy, isn’t it? You know, those women that are either too drunk to realize they’re coming on way too strong or that are too desperate to know when to back off. Flip those roles around and think about how you’re coming off as to her. It’s a trick most guys don’t use because let’s face it, we can be a little selfish at times but it’s the best way to make sure you aren’t coming off as too intense. Think of it as the golden rule of hookups – talk to her like you’d want women to talk to you, and avoid things that you know would creep you out if your roles were reversed. There’s nothing wrong with a little persistence. That’s what turns women on. They like a guy that will try hard to get with them and most women like to be chased a little bit, you just have to find that balance between coming on too strong and letting her know you really want to hook up with her.