Some guys just have a huge ego. They think that they’re the best thing since sliced bread and really don’t care if others don’t agree. To some level we all deal with this. If you’re one of the guys whose ego gets in your way when it comes to women all hope is not lost. After you recognize that you’ve got a problem you can start fixing it with these three strategies to rein your ego in.
Keep Your Mouth Shut
The biggest giveaway of a large ego is the fact that you have to be right. When someone says something that you might not agree with you’re quick to have a comeback. This is even worse when they’re saying something about you. Then you make everyone feel awkward. As hard as it might be not to have a sassy comeback and have the last word you’ve got to keep quiet. It shows a self control and self respect that cocky people just don’t have. The more you keep your words to yourself the easier it ends up getting in the long run. You just have to practice.
Stop the Comparisons
Unfortunately the root of all egos comes from comparing ourselves to others. You might be looking at your flaws and comparing them with someone you think is perfect. Then you get angry and feel the need to justify whatever weird argument you have going on in your head. No one else sees it and it only puts women off when you try to overcompensate for the phantom criticism.
If you are looking at other’s flaws and thinking how much better you are than them then you really need an adjustment. They are who they are because of their various life paths. Maybe they had a harder life than you did and didn’t get your education. Whatever it is that you’re comparing just try to think about it from their side. If you have the option you can even get to know them more. Maybe that would shut up whatever voice is in your head that talks crap on them.
Get Over Yourself
Alright, this sounds totally rude but it’s not meant to. The best way to reign in your ego is to just get over yourself. It’s so hard to face, but no matter how amazing you are at work, in your crew, or at home you are not the best. There will always be other people out there who are better than you. It might not be at the way you play sports or something, but they will excel past you in something. Humble yourself by seeking out those who are better than you and talking to them. Their sheer brilliance, physicality, emotions, etc. should knock you down a notch without making you feel like a complete loser. If you need to you can even tell yourself, “I can always improve”. Then you aren’t beating yourself down but you are acknowledging that you can do better.