Nice guys finish last. Seriously, it’s a proven fact. You might think that women want nice guys, but you’d be wrong. All throughout history women have chosen assholes, and nobody’s sure why. What we do know is that you aren’t helping yourself by being overly nice. In fact, you’re hurting your chances. This is probably why you go home alone every night. Being nice to her seems like the right thing to do, but it tells her a few things about you that probably aren’t true.
Women are always afraid of men stalking them. It’s no wonder why – it’s been happening for ages. She’s right to be cautious, but sometimes women take it too far. If you’re being nice to her, then you’re putting her on the fence immediately. On the one hand she’ll like the attention. On the other she’ll be terrified that you’re secretly an axe murderer. You can’t win. If you want one way to make her and her friends walk away, it’s by being too nice.
Since you’re being so sweet, she probably thinks you can’t get anyone else. Desperate men will beg and bend over backward for a woman. She sees this as a submission, and most likely she won’t be into it. No woman wants to settle for a man who grovels at her feet. Well, unless she’s a dominatrix. The key is to play it cool. Don’t let her know you’re dying to take her home. Make her feel like she isn’t the only woman you want, and she’ll want to work hard to make you notice her. It might be hard to pry yourself from her, but it’s a necessary evil. It’ll pay off in the end.
When she’s looking to hook up, the last thing she wants are strings that will be attached. Clingy guys are a huge turn-off, so don’t be surprised when she snubs you. Don’t act like this is a romantic thing. You want to get laid, and that’s it. There’s no point in skating around it. She doesn’t want you to be mushy with her, so don’t. Spare your dignity and don’t act like a love-struck teenager. Keep it pretty impersonal or else she’ll get the wrong idea. You don’t want her thinking that you want to date her or anything.
If you’re a nice guy, she automatically assumes you’re insecure. That probably isn’t true, but still. She doesn’t know that. Every time you open that door for her or compliment her hair, it’s a strike against you. Women are pros at sensing weakness, and she’ll attack if she thinks you aren’t strong. No lady wants to go home with a guy who doesn’t have confidence in himself, because that means you won’t have confidence in bed either. She won’t waste her time with you and you’ll be going home alone. Keep her at a distance to show her that you’re confident and could go home with any one of the ladies at the bar.