You’ve been dating this woman for a while and everything seems to be perfect. Both of you are happy and you don’t see how this could end. Then you start noticing a disturbing trend. For some reason your girlfriend seems to really lose temper with you. When she’s around everyone else she’s so calm and collected and helps everyone with their problems. Then she comes home to you to find out you didn’t make the dinner that she had frozen the night before. Suddenly you’re the worst boyfriend ever and she wants you to sleep on the couch. What gives?
You’re in the Line of Fire
When she does end up seeing you, you are just the last straw among many things she’s had to deal with. Remember how she is so nice to everyone and is the friend that solves problems? Yeah, well, that gets really tiring. Unfortunately and unfairly you’re just in the line of fire. You could be anyone, but the fact that you’re who she comes home to means that you’re the last person she can get angry at, and she knows that. That’s why she unloads on you and doesn’t seem to be able to put up with your imaginary bullshit.
You’re Her Boyfriend
Yeah, that’s an entire reason. You are her boyfriend, the guy who accepts her for who she is and loves her no matter what. That means that when you see all sides of her, so it’s okay if she’s being a dick around you. You have to like her more than other people because you’re banging her (among other reasons). It’s unfair as hell and really doesn’t make any type of sense. In addition to that wonderful reasoning you also are around her more than anyone else presumably. So maybe she’s not always crazy about your dinner choices but she puts up with them. They aren’t that bad. But when she’s been dealing with crap all day they do suddenly become that bad. Even if she hasn’t had a bad day, eating your weird meatloaf for the third time this month might not sit right with her.
How to Deal with It
You obviously have feelings for this lady otherwise you wouldn’t put up with her crap. But there are definitely helpful ways to deal with what’s going on. The easiest and most effective way is to confront it. Don’t let her blow her load all over you. Ask why she’s being so unfair and losing her temper with you. More often than not something deeper than your meatloaf is bothering her. Getting her to open up with you can mend whatever stitch has ripped in your relationship. She’ll also be more likely to realize that she’s being dumb and correct whatever she’s doing.
Besides confronting her giving her space is the next best option. She might want you to stay around and help her fix whatever problem there is, but giving her time and space to herself will let her become logical again.