This universal phrase has been said by just about any nice guy who didn’t make it with the woman he was going after. Or his parents said it to make him feel better. But no matter who says it the question remains: Is it true? Well yeah, sadly it is. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t cut your losses and ditch the nice guy act. First you’ve got to recognize the problem.
What Does Being a Nice Guy Mean?
Of course there are the basics of being a nice guy. You’ve got to be nice, but you’re probably also pretty agreeable as a person. “Yeah, sure we can totally do that. Whatever you want. Of course!” If you find yourself saying this sort of stuff then you probably are being too easy. You might think that you’re getting ahead by going along with anything she likes. That just makes her think that you’re boring. When she’s looking to date a guy she wants someone who is their own person.
How to Fix It
Now we aren’t saying that you should turn it all around and be a total dick to every women you meet. That works for some guys, but not you. First of all your nature is just that of a good guy. Pretending to be an asshole with a leather jacket is going to be totally wrong for you. She’ll be able to tell that you aren’t being genuine.
So you can’t be a bad boy, but you can be a great guy. Being a great guy isn’t that far off from being a nice guy. Instead of being too afraid to live your own life and stand up to women you’ve got to adjust your tune. A great guy is someone that stands for his morals and values without pushing them on other people. He will always be fair and stand up for someone who needs it. These are all nice guy qualities, but they have something special about them. They have leadership skills too. Women love leading men. They don’t have to be the head of a team or in government, but a guy who can make decisions and follow through with them shows initiative and dedication. Those two qualities can make any woman wet.
Getting to That Point
It’s all well and good to say that these are the things you need to do, but it’s not as easy as that. You’ve truly got to adjust your attitude and believe that you’re a great guy. It might sound really lame, but repeating the mantra “I’m a great guy. I have morals. I am a leader” can actually make you think differently. You’re going to be the one that needs the most convincing. Women you haven’t met before only know what you put towards them. For all they know you are naturally born confident and with great qualities. Try not to ruin it by getting nervous and reverting to your old self.