Sometimes it really doesn’t matter what you do when you’re trying to get a date. You can be charming, funny, and smart but you still can’t get a bite in the dating world. You wonder what’s wrong with you, start drinking, and end up in a sad basement. Stand up, brush off your jacket, and throw the bottle away. The truth is that it might not be your fault. We don’t know you personally, but if you aren’t a complete asshole and still can’t seem to get a lady you may be suffering from location. Location happens to all of us. We end up in a place full of eligible women but can’t seem to land any of them. The answer as to why might surprise you.
Your Town is Too Small
When you live in one of the smaller towns of the country it’s likely that you feel like you know everyone. It doesn’t matter how many people you actually see often, they tend to know someone who knows someone and then the dating pool gets all tangled. Small towns are like inbred gene pools. Everyone seems to be on rotation and we all end up dating the same people. If you’ve already gone through that line-up then you’re just out of choices. You’ve got to start looking elsewhere.
Your City is Too Big
The fact that your city is too big doesn’t seem right for not getting you a date. There are more fish to catch, so you should be swimming in sexy ladies, right? Wrong…so completely wrong. The truth is that being in a big city is even worse than being in a small town. First of all there are so many women that you will never get to know all of them. This makes both of you wonder if there’s someone out there who’s actually going to be a better match for you. Even if they’re amazing, you might be able to do better. We’re programmed to always want the best, so the city is only assisting us in stopping ourselves.
In line with the extreme population count the more common issue is that there are just too many choices. If you’re wondering around in a store that claims to have the best selection of mustard you might be stoked (if you love mustard, which is women in this case). You go in and are amazed with all of the mustard. There are fancy kinds, common kinds, foreign varieties, and even some that cost more than wine. After looking at every option you leave empty handed. What happened? Choice happened. We can get so overwhelmed with everything that we can choose from that we end up just not getting anything at all. When you’ve got the option of going after any woman in the city you don’t even know where to start. Honestly it’s easier to just leave it alone instead of having to go through a huge dating spree and not knowing what you should be going after.